Letter: For adoptees, blood matters
To the Editor:
As Connecticut adult adoptees await the legislative verdict on HB 5144 “Adult Adoptee Access to Birth Parent Health Information and Original Birth Certificates,” I’d like to share my story.
I learned that my birth brother, who I never met and is now long deceased, graduated from Western Connecticut State University.
I contacted WCSU Haas Library Archive Department and asked if they could find his yearbook picture. I gave them an approximate year, and they were more than up to the challenge.
By the next morning, I had the graduation picture of my brother in my mailbox. I learned he majored in Speech/Theater. They also offered me the yearbook his picture was in!
On Monday, April 8, I went to WCSU and met with Mr. Patrick Shea, Herbert Janick Fellow in Research & Archival Management. He explained what was involved in the search.
It is impossible to describe how it feels to see a picture of my own blood brother. We look alike, and were similar in so many ways. You have to be adopted to appreciate how incredible this feels and how important it is to know your blood history. My brother later went to NYU, and like myself, was a professional writer and musician. He reviewed for “Opera News” magazine.
I await word of House action on HB 5144. Will the House, Senate and Gov. Malloy “grant” adult adoptees the right that is ours? The right to know who we really are and our medical history? Will they right an egregious wrong?
As adoptees we are put into a witness protection program; i.e., we “adopt” someone else’s heritage. It may be a good heritage, however, that is not the issue.
I have a wonderful (adopted) brother. That does not affect my need to know my biological roots and medical history. As I look at my birth brother’s picture, I can tell you: Blood Matters!
Thank you Patrick, Christina, Vivon and others I met during my memorable visit to WCSU. Thank you all so very much.