Winter is not forever

It just feels that way. One of the reasons I love Connecticut is because of its four seasons. The fallen snow on the stone wall surrounding our property looks like something out of a Currier & Ives Christmas card. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

I’m ashamed to admit it, but this happens every year. I get so excited waiting for winter to begin. I love the first snowfall. But the work and the cold gets old quickly. Soon I lose sight of the beauty and I see the dirt, the extra time, the work and the cleanup, the dirt and salt on my car and my kitchen floor. I’m so ready for it all to end.

But as I stare intently at my calendar, I realize that winter may be far from over. There will be more shoveling and snow tunnels. And there will be a lot more Ice Melt and its residue on my windshield before we feel spring’s warm touch on our corner of the world.

What’s not to complain about?

Reminds me of a weight loss story I once heard. So exciting in the beginning, almost fun. New. Fresh. But it gets old quickly and we don’t see an end in sight.

Life gets hard. The kids come home from college and want goodies. Our income is reduced for one reason or another. We get snowed in with less routine and more food available. We’re sick. We can’t work out. Stress comes creeping out of all corners from the fun holidays to the sad, grief-filled trials.

With all this added stress, who would expect us to stick with our program?

But I know from experience that there are bulbs getting ready deep within the frozen ground. Ready to burst forth in a glorious array of color and scents, full of a fresh beauty that will keep me going for yet another season. I know that those stark branches waving around like icy fingers hold new life within them. In just a few months they will once again show off a lush green canopy over a slowly warming earth.

I know all this because that is what happens each spring. I also know that life continues. New situations arise and bring relief. I know that if I persevere I will outlive the desire for something that’s not on my program. If I put more time into planning, I will enjoy what I’m doing more.

I know it. I’ve seen it. Haven’t you? Don’t you know that even though it might seem old right now, you can put in more effort and ride out the winter? If you don’t, you’ll just have to believe me. Try it. Because it’s never always winter.

Not where I am. Not where you are.

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1

Kim Bensen, author of Finally Thin, was a lifetime yo-yo dieter who lost 200+ pounds and has kept it off for more than 10 years. She owns the Kim Bensen Weight Loss Center and just opened Kim’s Light Café on Bridgeport Avenue in Shelton. For more information, tips and recipes, go to