When you live with someone for a long time, you adopt their bad habits … because if you don’t, you’ll end up with a divorce or coronary. It’s a form of compromise. You tell yourself, “I don’t like that, but I can’t change it, so I’ll do it, too!”
For example, my wife used to go nuts when she found my dirty socks under the bed, but now she puts hers there, too and feels a lot better. (Just kidding.) The truth is Sandy carefully monitors my behavior so I don’t slip into a vortex of bad habits. I am blessed.